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Are you a beautiful person according to the members of this website?

A little news amused me in my lunch hour today…

The BBC reported that 5000 members of the world dating website Beautiful People were unceremoniously removed from the website because they put on too much weight after Christmas.

Hilariously, a spokesperson for the website said something along the lines of… if we don’t kick the “fatties” off the website we won’t be able to retain our niche and maintain our credibility.

Apparently, the worst offending countries for losing formerly attractive members were the US, Canada and the UK.

I would expect most people to sneer and say that self-proclaimed beautiful people shouldn’t have trouble meeting potential partners. It’s funny that one of the prettiest girls I know is single and has been for a while. Turns out you can be too beautiful and potential partners don’t have the nerve to approach you.

The thing is that my friend wouldn’t dream of listing herself on such a website, nor would she allow anyone else to create a profile on her behalf. I understand that you have to find a partner attractive but they also need to care about you as much as they care about their appearance.

If you are single, would you wish to be listed on a website like this but fear you are too fat to be approved by other members? It’s hardly a great reason to lose weight, but if you do feel too self-conscious to go out and find the love of your life, you need to change. It is not healthy to continually make excuses so you stop living the life you always wanted.

Have you found love online?

The usual complaint about people using online dating is that members are ‘creative with the truth’ and list impossibly old pictures of themselves or lie about their size.

As someone who has been involved in online dating, I can say with all confidence do not lie about yourself. The truth is that you WILL fail at finding a partner online if you are dishonest from the outset. As my grandmother said, “There is a lid for every pot” and you will find someone who likes you for who you are without any dishonesty or creative lighting!

When writing a profile, be honest about your personality, your likes, dislikes and interests. Positivity is generally viewed well so it’s best steering clear of this old chestnut: “I’ve just come out of a devastating and complicated relationship. I’m just looking for love from someone who won’t mess me about.” - You will be seen as a vulnerable walkover and you will attract the unscrupulous.

If your new year’s resolution is to find the love of your life online, find a website that has people who share the same values as you. It’s no good being beautiful if you can’t find someone who practices the same religion as you, or everyone you encounter are people desperately seeking sex!

There are websites that match people on all kinds of criteria, including dress size! There are even websites that match people who have the same STD! So be selective in your search because so many people take this rather terrible approach to dating: if you throw enough s*** at the wall, some of it will stick!

Read the full article here.

I can think of one very good reason to lose weight quickly: you’re about to go on a date. Not just any date though… you’ve met someone online and you have really got a connection with them. Oh, he’s funny and sweet and attentive and his pictures have all got your heart racing! There is only one problem. You’re meeting him soon and your picture is an old one and you’ve put on a bit of weight since! You don’t really look like your picture any more with your large tummy and second chin and you’re sure he’ll flounce out the restaurant claiming you lied to him.

The first date is always terrifying

Online dating is a minefield of problems as you might feel chemistry online but in person, it is very different and you may or may not be feeling it.

I met Jonny online and at first he said we couldn’t meet as I lived too far away but we got chatting and he announced that he had to meet me that evening. So he booked a hotel room and drove 100 miles to meet me. We really hit it off and the first kiss was amazing as we had incredible chemistry. We fell in love very quickly and six weeks later, we decided that I would move 100 miles away from my family, friends and life to be with him as his career was more established than mine. We are living proof that online dating CAN work. I don’t just want to be with him, I want a life with him.

We all feel anxious on a first date, particularly if your date is gorgeous!

How can you make online dating work for you?

• Always be yourself. It is exhausting pretending you love football too when you really don’t care about anything but the footballers thighs. You will always get found out and he’ll feel deceived.
• Don’t put up a picture of yourself that is 10 years out of date. When he meets you, he’ll decide you are insecure and will again, feel deceived.
• Don’t feel pressured to put out on the first date. If you want to that’s fine but just because your online conversations became sexual early, it doesn’t mean you have to drop your pants at the end of the first evening. Your normal rules do apply.
• Remember your manners! This applies to both ladies and gentlemen! Guys, pull out her chair for her, take her coat and walk on the road side so she is protected from traffic. My dad still does that for me when we’re out and I have always expected that from guys I date. Ladies, remember to say please and thank you, at least offer to split the bill and thank him for a wonderful evening, even if it was average!
• Don’t bang on about your ex! It’s one thing to briefly mention you were hurt by your ex so you’re cautious about dating again. However, there is no need to go into detail otherwise you will just look like you’re not over it and ready to move on.

Hopefully, these pointers will set you up for your first hot date thanks to the internet. If you have any other advice for Total Chunk readers, please feel free to comment below.