Skinny
Louisa and I can both tell you that our mother can be very critical of us, especially in terms of our looks. After years of my jeans being pulled up and my top down, comments etc, you get the picture, today the momentous moment arrives, she says to me ‘you’re looking skinny. That’s a good outfit for you, you’re looking really slim’. ‘
It’s a great feeling that someone who you wanted to notice your weight loss has done so with no prompting.
Anyways, the point I want to make is that it’s great that people have noticed your achievements and they’re pleased, but sometimes friends and relatives can start saying that you’ve gone too far the other way. Louisa had the same a couple of years ago when she was having a tough time, that’s just weight loss from stress that will rectify itself, it’s not healthy and it’s not cool. Other times, friends can be jealous and want to dampen your success by implying that you have a problem.
I fully expect any time soon, someone will start to say that I’ve lost too much weight. This is a load of rubbish because:
- My bmi is at 24.4, this is in the perfectly healthy range. If it at any time for me personally drops under 21, you can find me in the chippy!
- I eat within the expected amount of calories for a woman each day (2000 – that’s right, I eat the big 2000!)
- I don’t feel the need to hide my eating/not eating/amount I exercise
- I wear a UK 10-12, this is considered to be a slim and healthy size. If 10s or even 8s were falling off me and I could see my bones, I’d start to worry.
No one likes to hug a bag of bones
So while it’s exhilarating to hear people praising you for losing weight, there is still that urge to maintain the status quo if they’re still offering you left overs or using you to feel good about themselves (I don’t see these people anymore) and that’s the point where you have to put the above points as questions and be completely honest with yourself. If it’s just jealousy, then those doubters can shove it! If not, how can you sort this out in the healthiest way possible.
The reason why I wanted to discuss this is because we all talk about our goal weight, but what about when we’re not there yet (like me) and people you care about question if it’s too much. What do you think?
